Do you ever feel like you're not as capable as others think you are? Perhaps you've achieved success in your career or personal life, yet you can't shake the feeling that you're somehow fooling everyone and it's only a matter of time before you're "found out"? As a counsellor working with people online and from my practice in West London, Oxford and Cheltenham, I've worked with many high-achieving individuals who struggle with imposter syndrome, constantly doubting their abilities despite clear evidence of their competence.
Understanding Imposter Syndrome
Imposter syndrome is the persistent feeling that your success is undeserved and that you're a fraud, despite external evidence of your accomplishments. It's the internal belief that you've somehow tricked people into thinking you're more capable than you actually are, and that eventually, everyone will discover the "truth" about you.
Common Signs and Symptoms
You might be experiencing imposter syndrome if you attribute your success to luck rather than your abilities, feel anxious that others will discover you're not as competent as they think, downplay your achievements or dismiss positive feedback, or overwork to prevent being "found out". Many people also experience difficulty accepting praise, constant comparison with others, and fear of failure that holds them back from new opportunities.
Why Does It Happen?
Imposter syndrome often develops from various factors including perfectionism, early family dynamics, personality traits, or new challenges and roles. High achievers are particularly susceptible, as they set exceptionally high standards for themselves and struggle when they can't meet these unrealistic expectations.
Breaking Free from Imposter Syndrome
Recognising imposter syndrome is the first step towards managing it. Acknowledge your feelings without judgement and understand that many successful people experience these same doubts. Keep a record of your achievements and positive feedback to review when self-doubt creeps in. Share your feelings with trusted colleagues or friends - you might be surprised how many others feel the same way. Challenge negative self-talk by questioning the evidence for and against your abilities.
Moving Forward
Remember that feeling like an imposter doesn't make you one. Your achievements are real, your skills are valid, and your success is deserved. Learning to accept your accomplishments and recognise your worth takes time and practice, but it's an important step towards greater confidence and wellbeing.
If you're struggling with imposter syndrome and would like support in building genuine confidence and self-acceptance, I invite you to reach out to Hope and Harmony. Together, we can work through these feelings of self-doubt and help you recognise your true capabilities and worth. You don't have to carry these doubts alone.