Frequently Asked Questions

About Counselling
What is Counselling?

Counselling provides a safe and confidential space to talk with a professional about something you’re struggling with or perhaps has just been bothering you. You’ll be able to talk about any past or present experiences and any thoughts, feelings or emotions you’ve been battling. It’s a chance to explore and express how you’re being affected, but without fear of being judged or misunderstood.

Counselling can give you the time and space to work through any problems, issues, or worries you may be experiencing and the chance to open-up about things you may feel uncomfortable expressing or not ready to talk about with friends or family.

How do I know if I need counselling?

Asking others for help and advice about an issue we might be facing or to just listen, their response can leave us feeling confused, overwhelmed, judged and not properly understood.

If you’re feeling anxious, stressed, worn-out or overwhelmed, talking about it could help. If something is weighing you down, leaving you feeling depressed, alone, hopeless and causing a strain on the different relationships in your life, then perhaps counselling can help.

Whether it’s something that’s more recently been affecting you or something you might have been carrying for a long-time, counselling offers you the space to gather your thoughts, express your feelings and try to understand your emotions.

How can counselling help?

Counselling can help you move towards growth and positive change while putting you in the driving seat of your therapeutic journey. Counselling can show you a different perspective on things, help you gain new insights and process difficult experiences.

You’ll develop your strengths, explore your choices and the obstacles that may be preventing you from achieving your potential. You’ll have a chance to reflect, make sense of difficult life events and develop new ways to move forward.

You’ll feel comfortable enough to explore yourself and work towards your own personal growth – emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually.

About the sessions
How many sessions will I need?

As everyone is different in what they might want, need or with what can come up for them, so there is no specific time frame for how long the therapeutic process could take. Perhaps just a few sessions or it might be more open-ended; it really depends on your needs, goals and how you feel about the process.

However, it takes around 6–10 sessions for you to experience any meaningful change. Although sessions can be a one-off, weekly (or more), fortnightly, monthly etc, therapy is most effective with weekly attendance during the initial period. Any regular or extended gaps can diminish any benefit. Still, you may feel that such an arrangement suits your needs so this can be adjusted accordingly.

You’re never under any pressure or obligation and free to decide if you would like to end a session early or if you felt your overall therapy journey had come to an end.

How long is a session?
  • Standard counselling session

A standard session is 50 minutes. Although extra time can be arranged, but this will need to be discussed and pre-agreed to reflect it benefiting your needs.

 

  • Initial telephone consultation

The initial telephone consultation is 15 minutes. This is free and there is no obligation.

 

  • Your very first session

The very first session will last around 75 minutes as a little more time is needed to cover information that will help us to establish how we’ll work together.

How will I know if therapy is working?
  •  Reviews

Firstly, it’s important for you to know that we’ll periodically review our sessions together and see if you’re getting the best out of them and how you may feel about the therapy work itself. So, you’re never under any pressure or obligation.

 

  • Trust in the process

At times you might feel like you’re making good progress and at other times, less so. Yet, a lot of therapy takes place in between sessions as you process the different areas you explore during therapy. Therefore, even when you feel like you’re not moving as quickly as you might want to, know that therapy is a journey that is always taking place, even when you might not realise it.

 

  • Ask questions and reflect

Still, one simple way is to tell me what you want from the session, then reflect afterwards if you got what you wanted. Yet, more commonly, you might realise you’re beginning to see things differently, feel less stressed, better able to manage your emotions, feel more connected to others, feel more comfortable and accepting of yourself. You may be using less negative language to describe yourself, others, your problems and a more positive outlook in life.

 

  • Give yourself time

Some people report feeling uncomfortable during/after a session, which is unsettling but will also be part of the change part of moving forward. Nonetheless, be kind to yourself and patient with the process. A deep emotional problem, a trauma or something you’ve been carrying for 10 years may not be solved in just a few weeks. So, it’s important to give yourself time and space to explore yourself, and trust in the process.

How are sessions delivered?
  • Remote

I am currently able to telephone or Zoom / MS-Teams video sessions. If you have another preferred remote platform, just let me know and I’ll try and accommodate your needs so that you can attend our sessions from wherever you feel most comfortable. Working in this way offers you more flexibility, plus you don’t have to worry about transport arrangements or parking etc. I have found that this prevents undue stress before working together so we can get the best out of the session.


  • Face-to-face

I also offer face-to-face sessions in West London, but these are more limited. If you would prefer this, please contact me about availability and we can talk through the suitability and accessibility from location.

Why do I first need an initial consultation?

Before we have any therapy sessions, it’s important to establish your needs and how I might be able to offer you support. You'll have time to ask any questions you might have and decide on what you'd like to do next. You are never under any pressure or obligations and are always free to decide what might work best, including taking your time to decide whether or not you’d like us to continue together. The telephone call will last around 15 minutes, is free and there is no obligation.

How much will it cost?
  • Remote working (telephone/video): a standard 50 minute session costs £50. This can be from anywhere within the UK.

  • Face-to-face: a standard 50 minute session costs £60. This is based in West London.

 

  • Any extensions need to be pre-arranged and will be charged accordingly.

 

  • There is no charge of an initial 15 minute consultation telephone call.

  • The very first session will last around 75 minutes as a little more time is needed to cover some information that will help us to establish how we’ll work together. The cost will still be £50 for this session.
How do I book a session?

Drop me a text/email with a day/time that is convenient for you, and I will telephone you back for an initial free and informal chat? This will be around 15 minutes where we can explore your needs and how I might be able to offer you support. You are never under any pressure or obligations and are always free to decide what might work best, including taking your time to decide whether or not you'd like us to continue together.

How do I pay for a session?

Payments can be made via a bank transfer. Details are provided after we have an initial assessment and arrange a session.

What therapies do you offer?
Therapies
  • Integrative therapy

Integrative therapy is a therapeutic orientation or style of delivering therapy. It can be thought of as a sort of mixing or blending of different therapies. It is a dynamic and highly adaptable approach that draws on a range of therapy models, tools and techniques to better support the unique needs of each individual – tailoring therapy to the clients and not the client to the therapy. As there are many ways a person can approach and explore their experiences, no one single theory is relied upon in isolation. This offers a person greater control, choice and flexibility as it evolves and adapts to the changing needs of the client. As such, an integrative approach can support a wide range of problems.

  • Person-centred therapy

This is a humanistic approach. It’s a very gentle and compassionate style that supports you in rediscovering your true self. When you can experience a safe and non-judgmental environment with someone who will genuinely accept you for who you really are, you will naturally learn to believe-in yourself and trust in your own answers.

Once you reconnect with who you really are, you can discover the incredible potential you have inside of you. This acknowledges and builds your own abilities rather than seeing the therapist as the expert.

The core of Person-centred is that you experience feeling deeply and empathically understood, what you say is unconditionally accepted with compassion, and that you feel being genuinely listened to and with what you have to say. As such, nothing is too big or too small. However personal an experience might feel, or controversial something might seem, you shouldn’t feel diminished, rejected, or afraid to express yourself. Rather, you’ll have a space to gather your thoughts, express your feelings and try to understand your emotions. For your story to be heard and in your own words – giving you the space to just be you.

  • Psychodynamic therapy

This is a psychoanalytic approach that views a person’s unconscious thoughts and perceptions as the main drive behind their current behaviours and thoughts. These unconscious processes are largely developed throughout childhood as our unconscious mind holds onto painful thoughts, feelings, memories and experiences. The conscious mind often struggles to understand and even realise such processes are impacting their life.

Thus, psychodynamic therapy aims to bring these unconscious experiences into conscious awareness in order to help you resolve them. As we work together, I can help you to recognise possible unconscious patterns that help you cope and avoid distress, thus helping you to change negative patterns, grow and move towards positive change. You will learn new patterns of behaviour and ways of thinking that promote personal development and growth, helping you to overcome any limitations caused by your unconscious feelings.

  • Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)

This is a cognitive behavioural approach. It is a well-researched and evidence-based approach that can support a wide range of problems. The core idea sees that how we think (cognitions), how we feel (emotions) and how we act (behaviours) all interact together. Specifically, our thoughts determine our feelings and our behaviour. CBT aims to help you change the way you think (cognitive) and what you do (behaviour) by exploring practical solutions to help you better manage different problems.

CBT is a very active process and is supported with home-based activities. Although this might not suite everyone, it is highly adaptive to support what works best for you. As such, a joint partnership is encouraged between the client and therapist to both creatively explore different ways of approaching and managing problems. In doing so, a greater sense of self-reliance and self-confidence is developed as you learn to become your own therapist.

  • Mindfulness

Can be thought of as a technique but also a way of living life. As such, mindfulness has even been adapted and integrated into what is called third-wave CBT through a well-known approach called mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT). Essentially, Mindfulness is a specific way of paying attention to what is happening in the present moment. This can include our thoughts and perceptions, our body sensations and life in general. It doesn’t remove a problem, but with practice, it can help reduce and even stop being negatively affected by a problem.

Using different techniques such as gentle stretching, mindful meditation and other mind-body exercises, mindfulness aims to offer greater clarity on what is happening, to help people recognise stress triggers and deal with them in a more positive manner. This can help you feel more engaged in work, less anxious and have fewer physical symptoms of stress.

  • Solution-focused brief therapy

This is another humanistic approach that is based on solution-building rather than problem-solving through promoting positive change rather than dwelling on past problems. By encouraging you to recognise your resources and focus positively on what you do well, helps you to look forward and use your own strengths to achieve your goals.

  • Walk and talk therapy

Provides the option of having sessions outdoors or in nature. This can support those who don’t get out as very often as they’d like, for those who may feel a little anxious or claustrophobic in a therapy room. Talking therapies typically take place indoors, but walk & talk therapy can help you to think differently about aspects of your life. During this time, a therapeutic relationship is still active in helping you explore a problem and finding ways to better manage your emotions. This can also be combined with CBT such as challenging a behaviour around a phobia like agoraphobia and social anxiety.

How will I know which therapy would be best for me?
  • Relax

If this the first time you’re considering having therapy, but feel unsure what approach would best support you, don’t worry. I will gauge how to adapt the therapy to best support your unique and individual needs so you can get the most out of the experience.

  • Readiness and Suitability

It is also important that we explore your readiness and suitability to have any one therapy. Moreover, this process is ongoing as we review how you respond to and feel about a therapeutic approach. Also, your needs may change throughout, so it’s important to allow therapy to be adapted to support any changing needs you may experience.

  • Collaboration

However, you should always feel included within this process and able to decide what is working best for you. A such, we can jointly explore this together – tailoring therapy to you and not you to the therapy. This also supports you if you’ve had therapy before and found a particular approach beneficial, or maybe it didn’t quite suit your needs and are now interested in exploring a different approach? Whatever your situation, I will assess and guide things, but you will always be included within this process.

  • My Core Style

Still, no matter what blend of therapy we explore together, unless you can feel safe within a genuine relationship of trust and respect, any therapy approach can be challenging. Someone once said to me, “the greatest complement someone can pay your driving, is to fall asleep”. Meaning, they feel safe enough to allow themselves to become completely vulnerable because they feel safe and trust being in your presence.

As such, at the heart of how I work, is a Person-centred approach. Then, I explore complementing and integrating therapies that may support you throughout and these too will have the essence of a Person-centred experience throughout; empathy, compassion, acceptance, genuineness, patience, caring, trust, respect, and understanding.

Why should I choose you as my therapist?
About me
  • Professionally trained

I am a fully qualified, integrative therapeutic counsellor. This involves extensive, professional training that is accredited and a nationally recognised qualification. Furthermore, I am always looking to expand my knowledge, tools and skills. A such, I regularly undertake further training, to offer more choices and greater support to my clients.

  • Professional membership

I am a member of the ‘British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy’ (BACP) and abide by their Ethical Framework. This is a set of guidelines that ensures that I’m always working safely, ethically and effectively.

  • Professional standards

As part of the BACPs ethical framework, I observe their values, principles and personal moral qualities. This drives a professional standard through sustaining and advancing good practice and putting my clients first. Additionally, I work under the guidance of a clinical supervisor that ensure a high standard in my work.

  • Confidentiality

Another important part of the BACPs ethical framework, I practice a high level of confidentiality, so anything you discuss is treated in confidence. However, as confidentiality is an especially important subject in therapeutic work, we will go through this more during your first session. This will also give you the chance to ask any questions you might have.

  • My style of working

As an integrative therapist, I draw on a range of therapy models to better support your unique and individual needs. However, I will always put you at the centre of the experience, so you feel respected and in control. That’s because an important way that I work is that you experience feeling deeply and empathically understood, what you say is unconditionally accepted with compassion, and that you feel being genuinely listened to and with what you have to say. This might feel like a strange and unfamiliar experience to a lot of people. Yet, when you feel safe enough to really share your deepest thoughts, feelings and experiences, you feel more connected, able to truly express yourself and tell your story.

  • Experience

I have experience working in a range of mental health and support role settings since 2013. This includes mental health, bereavement and counselling charities and in education, supporting young people with special education needs and disabilities.

I have worked with a diverse range of clients from different ethnic, religious, and cultural backgrounds. I have experience working with an array of problems including bereavement (including pets), terminal illness, suicidal ideation, self-harm, substance misuse, victims of crime, trauma & PTSD symptoms.

Do you have a privacy policy and terms & conditions?

Yes, I have a privacy policy while in counselling, the T's & C's are referred to as a ‘working agreement’. Your privacy, confidentiality and the transparency of how I work are important. These will be covered during out first session, and you will receive copies of these afterwards for your reference. It’s important that we talk through these together so any concerns or questions you may have can be explored together